The Walker

by on March 14, 2013 at 6:46 pm
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Ever since I was little, there’s been this guy that my dad calls “The Walker”.   We call him that because every day, he walks from Oakville to Toronto and back again with nothing but the clothes on his back and a bag of food, which I can only assume is his lunch.   He walks all the time.  I’ve never seen him walk with anyone, nor have I ever seen him stop anywhere to rest.  I’ve always questioned why he walks, and where he goes, and what he does.

Sometimes I would imagine the kind of life that he lead that would cause him to just walk everywhere.  I even made a character in a story based on him.  I just find something interesting about a character I know nothing about, but at the same time I could make up an entire story about him.

But then again, he could just be a guy who likes to walk and I’m just romanticizing it.

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Tumblr Question #20

by on March 7, 2013 at 11:33 pm
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Anonymous asked:

I have a question.  My question is:  What do I do?  Now, for the information.  I have a boyfriend whom I’ve been dating for 2 years now but for almost a year of it, I have ups and downs about whether or not I truly want to be with him.  I love him and care for him greatly, but I have so many doubts and am unsure so often; while he on the other hand is so sure it’s scary.  Now there’s this other guy that I really like, 17 turning 18, but he’s more mature than my boyfriend and he can make me smile and laugh so easily.  We just click, even though we’ve only been talking for a short time.  You see, I’m only 20 and my boyfriend is my second, and I feel that I want to explore for a while before settling down.  My boyfriend is so sure about is that he wants to marry me, and sometimes I feel the same; other times I don’t and just unsure.  My question once again:  What do I do?

Violet responded:

To be honest, I think the reason why you feel unsure is because your boyfriend is so sure.  You might feel like you don’t know you love him because your boyfriend is putting his all into the relationship.  The thing is, if you’re having those thoughts, then you’re still missing something in the relationship.  If you’re looking for other guys to feel that certain spark, your boyfriend is lacking something that you need.  It’s not his fault or yours, that’s just who you are.

But if that’s the case, then it’s not fair to your boyfriend.  Being with someone when you’re looking at other guys isn’t a healthy relationship.  Talk with your boyfriend.  See if you guys can work it out first.  If you can’t, then do the best thing for him and let him go.

And before jumping to any new relationships, give yourself time to heal.  This way you can get closure to help you start with the rest of your life.

 

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Tumblr Question #19

by on March 7, 2013 at 10:25 pm
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Anonymous asked:

My best friend, well used to be best friend has a girlfriend. They’ve been dating for a month, and i think i’m starting to realize that i’ve liked him the whole time. I never noticed in the beginning, but now it’s just wow. I like him. He used to like me before his girlfriend, but he never told me so i never knew. Before he had a girlfriend we were best friends and now we don’t even talk anymore..what do i do? He basically forgot about me..i just want my best friend back 🙁 please help..

Violet responded:

Keeping friendships is hard.  My first piece of advice is not to seek a girlfriend/ boyfriend relationship with him until after he breaks up with his girlfriend.  My second piece of advice is if you want to remain best friends with him, then let him know.  I’m sure he hasn’t forgotten about you.  People just need reminding.  If he really did have a crush on you before, he might be distancing himself for the sake of the relationship he has now with his girlfriend.  If he hears that you’re in love with him now, then he might be tempted to leave his girlfriend for you, and that’s not fair to his girlfriend.

If you want to be his friend, just let him know that you want to get back in touch.  Slowly integrate him back into your life.  Just make sure that you’re being his friend and not trying to push his girlfriend out of the picture.

 

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Tumblr Question #18

by on March 7, 2013 at 9:22 pm
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Anonymous asked:

There is this guy who told people that he liked me a lot back in highschool, but he never did anything about it. I messaged him on facebook but he didn’t reply, so I just kind of forgot about it. On pof he clicked yes on the meet me app, so I sent him a message saying “Hi there! :)” and he didn’t reply. What do you think he’s doing? ._.

Violet responded:

I’m not sure what he’s doing.  Maybe he’s playing hard to get?  Or maybe he just doesn’t know what to say.

Regardless, if nothing happens, don’t read too much into it.

 

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Tumblr Question #17

by on March 7, 2013 at 8:21 pm
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Anonymous asked:

I am good friends with this guy, Ben, but we kind of have like a rocky friendship. And my best friend doesn’t like him for this reason and she would always use to ask me why I talk to him etc. So eventually I just stopped telling her that I still talk and hang out with him. But tonight I was texting both of them and I accidentally sent a text to my best friend saying ‘Ben I miss you’. She responded saying ‘excuse me I am not Ben’. What do I say to her?! This is so awkward I just want to lie

Violet responded:

Just tell her the truth.  If she’s really your best friend, she’ll stick by you, regardless of what other friendships you have.

You’re obviously friends with this guy for a reason, and she’s going to have to respect that.

 

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