Anonymous asked:

Hi So there is a guy (I feel so stereotypical already) and obv I like him. Our background has been painful in the sense that he is really bad at replys and bailed a few times when we have organised to meet up. Nothing serious has happened or weve not really progressed far, but in Jan he invited me to a family wedding as a plus one, which is quite a big thing when i think about it. It went really well, then after that weekend he hasnt spoken to me since and never replied to me. what do you think?

Violet responded:

It looks like this guy doesn’t really want to be in a relationship.

You need to ask yourself why he asked you to the wedding as his plus one.  He may have done it to make you happy, or he could have done it so he could have a trophy girlfriend to make himself look better in front of his family.

On top of that, you have to ask if having a flake as a boyfriend is a good thing.  He may have invited you to the wedding, but he didn’t talk to you afterwards?  Inviting you to a wedding IS a big thing.  In my opinion, I don’t think he really wants a relationship.  I think he’s looking for someone to make him look good.

If you feel that he’s worth it, then go and chase him.  He might change for you, or he might not.

If you don’t feel like this is worth it, then you know what you need to do.


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