Anonymous asked:

so I met this girl online and known her for 1.5 years now I fell in love with her and she with me we video chatted a few times (3 times) its still another year before we meet I am moving close to her country to study a 2 year course.we have been much problems with trust jealousy and insecurity lot of name calling and other shit she also has doubts whether we will actually click in real life or if she is in way of me meeting someone else I don t know what to do or say to her

Violet responded:

Online relationships are hard to maintain.  Online only relationships are even harder.  A lot of the time, they don’t work.  I know there are a lot of stories that someone “met their dream girl online” or something like that, but there are a lot of online relationships that fail just as often.  Especially since the whole relationship relies on trust.  To be honest, it doesn’t look like your girlfriend trusts you very much.

If you feel like this relationship is worth keeping, then keep it.  Otherwise, it might be best to let her go and find someone else.  It’s harsh, but it’s also the truth.


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