Anonymous asked:

So I met a guy on the first of the year and ever since then, it’s been amazing.  I saw him everyday and we had such a strong connection and then I had to leave for school.  The only problem is that he is severely depressed, I actually met him when visiting another friend in the hospital.  Before I met him, I’d been thinking about transferring to a school closer to Cincinnati (where I met him) and now that we both are getting very serious about each other, he wants me to come back too.  He says that me being there with him would help his depression significantly so if I moved back, our relationship would not only be good, but I’d also be helping him with his depression.  Transferring schools and moving all my stuff is actually a big hassle, seeing as I live off campus, and I feel like I’m moving back for him because I really want to be with him.  We talk about having a future and falling in love and part of me feels like I’d be missing out if I didn’t move back.  What do you think?

Violet answered:

To be honest, I don’t think you should move back for him.  Love is great, and I’m glad that you care so much for him, however there is also your dreams and your needs that you need to take care of as well.  He may be depressed, but is helping him with that struggle going to help you anywhere in the future?  What if your relationship fails and then you have no back-up plan?

I’m not saying that it will happen, I’m just saying that you should think it through before switching schools.  Think of all the possible outcomes before acting.

There’s a saying that Love is Blind, and that’s very true.  Love can blind you very easily, and even though an idea seems really great in your head, sometimes doesn’t come true unless you take the necessary steps to making sure that it does come true.  Take the time you need to make sure that everything is in place for both of you to be happy.  If he’s not satisfied with your decision, then it wasn’t meant to be.


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