Anonymous asked:

Violet, Valentines Day is coming up and I’m starting to realize that I’m not attracted to my girlfriend anymore. In fact, I’m not attracted to anyone like my girlfriend, if you catch my drift. This is a new development for me and it’s all really confusing. Between my skateboarding practices and my stressful LPs on Youtube, I haven’t been able to find the time to tell my girlfriend that I’m a homosexual. Or maybe I’m just putting it off. I’m scared how she’ll take it. How can I tell her the news?

Violet responded:

It’s natural to be scared of how she’ll take it, but if she really loves you, she would rather see you happy than doing something that hurts both of you.  The longer you put it off the more it will hurt.

It’s like breaking up with a girlfriend.  Because that’s what you’re going to have to do anyway.  Tell her the truth.  Don’t make excuses because no matter what it’s going to hurt, but it will hurt less than if you decide to keep her as your girlfriend and then date a guy on the side.

Just tell her gently, and most of all, try your best to tell her that it’s not her fault.

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