Leaving the Friend Zone (and when it’s ok to try)

There may be some of you who are willing to try and leave the friend zone.  For those of you who are, good luck to you.  A lot of the time, there’s a reason why you’re their friend and not their partner.  Here are some tips and rules you should take into consideration though.

1. Don’t try to date your friend if they are dating someone else.

This is just mean and unfair to your friend.  If you do this, you’re putting pressure not only on their relationship, but on your friendship as well.  It’s just unfair.

2. Try being their friend and not a pet.

What I mean by this is be there for them, but don’t always be waiting for them.  Don’t always jump when they ask you to jump.  Be a person.  You’re their friend, not their dog.  Be their friend.  Have fun together, talk about your insecurities, and most of all, don’t push yourself on them.

3. Live your own life

Another way to say this is “make yourself scarce”.  You have your life; you don’t have to wait for their call.  No one is worth that much trouble that you stop your own life for someone else.

4. Tell them that you love them, but that you also value your friendship.

Be honest with them.  Tell them that you’re in love with them.  However, also tell them that you value your friendship more, and no matter what, you’ll be their friend first.  This shows that you value their happiness over your desire to be with them.  Your feelings shouldn’t ruin a friendship, especially if you just expect them to jump directly into a relationship with you.  If you’re only their friend to get into their pants, then you’re not really their friend.  True friends will always be that first.

5. No means no.

If they don’t want to be in a relationship with you, then that’s that.  Don’t push the subject.  If you don’t like it, then tough.  If you can’t handle that, then stop being their friend.  It’s not worth it to you or to them.

Hopefully these will help.  If it works, then great.  If it doesn’t, there are literally 6 billion other people in the world.  You don’t need to fixate on one.