Anonymous asked:

Me and my boyfriend of 1 year had sex around a month ago. We’re both underaged (15) and he is forcing me to tell my mom about it before his mom calls my mom tomorrow. I dont know what to do. Please help 🙁

Violet responded:

To be honest, I’m not sure exactly what to say in this sort of situation.  I’ll try my best though.

Regardless of what you do, your mother will always love you, and I think she would rather hear that you’re having sex with your boyfriend from you, rather than your boyfriend’s mother.  Yes, you might be in trouble after you tell her for a little while, but in the long run she’ll appreciate that you told her, and that you trust her enough to tell her about your transition into adulthood.

Unless you’re from a religion that’s very extreme about not having sex while under-aged, you should be ok.  Sex is a very adult thing to do, and even though you’re only 15, it’s better that your mother knows that you’re safe.

If you are from one of those religions that are very strict about sex, then I’m sorry but I don’t know how to help you in that situation.  All I can do is hope that you’re safe.

It’s important to keep a line of communication open with your mother.  She’ll always be there for you, regardless of your actions.  She might get angry afterwards, but before you tell her, make sure you tell her that you’re trying to do the adult thing by telling her this.  It’s scary growing up, and I think everyone would like to have a parent there to help us when we’re scared to go forward.  Just make sure to tell her before your boyfriend’s mom.


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