Anonymous asked:

So my girlfriend and I are currently in a long distance relationship, and recently her best friend(guy) told her he was in love with her, when she told him she was in love with me he stopped talking to her. She thought it was stupid of him so she and her friend went to his house to talk to him. Apparently he kissed her, now i’m a little pissed off because girls don’t just get kissed, its a joint effort. She told me what happened immediately out of “love”. Am I wrong for being angry about this?

Violet responded:

You’re not wrong for being angry about this.  Someone other than you kissed your girlfriend.  You have every right to be angry about this.  However it’s wrong to let that anger linger.  Long distance relationships are probably the hardest relationships to maintain since the whole relationship relies on trust.  I believe your girlfriend does want to keep trying though.  Most girlfriends wouldn’t even admit that this type of situation even happened let alone tell their partner.

Take some time to cool yourself down before talking to your girlfriend again.  Try to get her side of the story fully.  It’s most likely harder for her right now because she knows you’re angry, and the person she’s most likely to run to when she has no idea what to do is her best friend  (Although to be honest, if he was her best friend then he wouldn’t have done that in the first place).

If you still love your girlfriend, and if you still trust her, then keep fighting for her.  She’ll know that you are.

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Anonymous asked:

So I’ve been in love with this guy for around a year now. We dated once but it didn’t last longer than 3 months. I still have lots of strong feelings for him but I’ve began to notice that I have feelings of love towards my best guy friend and I don’t know what to do or who to choose? I think the second likes me back but you can never be sure with him.

Violet responded:

I would say don’t date either of them until you sort out your feelings towards your ex.  Find out the reasons why you guys broke up, and try to find out if it’s really worth getting back together with him.  If he doesn’t share the same desire, then give yourself some time to get over him.  Don’t jump into another relationship with your best friend right away, give yourself some time to heal.  If your best guy friend is really your best friend, then he’ll understand that you need time for yourself.

If you decide to go for your best friend right away instead of pursuing your ex, then it’s not fair to your best friend because you still have feelings towards your ex.  Without dealing with them, you could hurt your friend more than by not being with him at all.

Just take time to sort out your feelings.  Don’t jump into a relationship too early, and make sure to talk things out with your friend to see where he stands as well.

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I said before that I wasn’t very well liked back when I was a kid.  I’m not sure if that was the cause of me liking anime, or if it was because of it.  But regardless of how it really started, the end result was me being a devout fan of Japanese Anime.

It’s become a part of me, to say the least.  I’m not sure why I’m such a fan of it either.  It might have something to do with the animation, or maybe it’s the stories that they produce.  Personally, I think the stories of Japanese Anime are no different than the other stories, animated or otherwise.

The thing is, I’ve grown up with people who don’t understand anime as an art form.  Hell, I’ve gone to school where they actually refuse to acknowledge anime as an art form.  They were more concerned in conforming their students into animators for Pixar or Disney.

I can see why some people wouldn’t like anime.  The art style is very different than from the animation in the west.  When you look at Western animation, most of the characters are very masculine, and pay lots of attention to detail in the actual figures.  In Japanese anime, most of the characters are very feminine, with little detail in the forms, but lots of detail in everything else related to them.

I’d say that I try to take the best of both worlds in my art, however I don’t seem to grasp the detail from either art form, more of the simplicity of it.

In all honesty, I prefer Japanese Anime over Western Animation a lot of the time.  It’s not always the case, since I have a lot of movies and shows that are western animation, but anime always holds a dear place in my heart.  Maybe it was the fact it made me different from the other kids at school.  Maybe it’s the fact that the community, while it can be very unpredictable and harsh, can also be very kind.  Maybe it’s the fact that it’s a way for me to be introduced to different genres of media in the world.

I may never know for sure why I like anime so much, but I can say that I hold it in high regard.

A Short Story by Samantha Limberger

I step off the train.  A little bewildered, I look around at my surroundings.  The platform is empty, devoid of other people.  There is a map, a bench, and a black door.  I hear a dinging and turn around to see what it was.  The door to the train had closed and was slowly making its way back the way it came.  For some reason I feel like waving.    I know if I wait here long enough, more people I know would get off that train too.  It feels nostalgic really, watching the train go back to pick up people I know.  And normally I would wait for them too.  Then we could all go on the train together.  One big happy group of people.  But not this time.

I sit down on the bench.  Waiting always takes forever, especially without music.  Thoughts always run through my mind while waiting for a train.  Why did I jump on the train before everyone else?  I figured if I got on there, other people would join me too.  But it’s always the same.  I jump on the train first, other people either jump on a different train or wait for the next one.  Seriously people, your feet aren’t made of lead, you can jump on the first train.

I start to tap my fingers in the tune of the Animaniacs theme song.  It’s time for Animaniacs, tap tap tap, and we’re zany to the max, tap tap tap, so just sit back and relax, you’ll laugh till you collapse…

Wasn’t there a quote about waiting for a train?  Wasn’t it something like, you’re waiting for a train, and you don’t know where it’s going, but it doesn’t matter because you’ll be together?  What was that from?  I sit and think for a while.  Oh that’s right, it’s from Inception.

I reach into my pocket to look at my phone.  Time always moves so slowly while waiting for a train.  Maybe I could call people to help me pass the time?

I start to look through my contacts.  Half these people I don’t even talk to.  Heck, I don’t even know this person.  Why do I have these people in my phone?  I send a couple texts to a couple people telling them it’s boring waiting for a train, and then I sit back to see if anyone texts back.

I always question why I never get text replies back right away.  I know other people have lives, but they can’t all be doing something really exciting right now, right?  I’m pretty sure someone else is waiting for a train like me, right?  Well, now I’m just waiting for two things.

I get up.  I start to dance around on the platform to a song that’s never been made.  Maybe I should record this and give it to my friend when I have the chance.  Maybe he could make this into a song at some point.  Or maybe he’ll listen to it and then say it’s too weird and then go and make his own songs.  I stop dancing.  Maybe I should sing a song.  What song to sing though?

Each morning I get up I die a little, can barely stand on my feet!  No, no, too depressing at the moment.

I’ve got a lovely bunch of coconuts; there they are standing in a row.  No, no, I’m not really singing that song; I’m just talking it.

Sitting along, inward smile, everything’s fine, silent denial.  No, no, I don’t know all the words to my friend’s song.

I sigh.  I go over to look at the map.  I then realize I don’t know where I’m going.  I see so many ways to go, and yet I’m not sure which train to jump on next.  I could wait for more people and then jump on the train they’re going on.  No, no, I already decided I was going on my own train.

But which train to choose?  I could go on a train that takes me far away.  Or I could go on a train that doesn’t take me anywhere at all.  Or I could go on a train that takes me exactly what I’ve dreamed of for so long.  Or I could take a detour from my dream and jump on a train that leads to somewhere I know is fun.  Or I could go back.  But going back is always really hard.  And what if I jump on a train that takes me back, and people I know are getting off to wait here for the next train?  That would be embarrassing.

I step away from the map.  I look at the black door.  Maybe I could just stay here all my life.  Maybe I could just walk through that door and give up trying to ride trains all my life.  I walk over to the door.  My hand hovers over the door handle.  It’s cold.  So very cold.

But what if someone else wants me to come with them on a train?  What if I walk through this door and I never want to ride on a train again?  I think I’d miss the people I know if I walk through this door.  I take my hand back.

This isn’t my stop.  There’s no point in making it my last stop.  There are so many more things to do.

I turn around.  My phone buzzes.  Finally someone has decided to text me back.  My phone buzzes again.  And again.  And again.  So many texts from people that I love.  Some texts say that they’re rooting for me to take the train I want.  Some texts are suggestions on which trains to take, and which to avoid.  Some texts are just reminders that they love me.

I smile.  I take the time to respond to every text, thanking them for advice, and telling them I love them too.

I look up.  A train is waiting for me.  The conductor comes out.

“Hello, are you getting on this train?”

I look at the train.

“Where does this train go?” I ask.

“Forward,” was all he said.

That’s good enough for me. I don’t know where this train will take me, but as long as I have people who love and support me, and as long as the train keeps going forward, then I’m sure I’ll be just fine.

I really had to think about this over the course of my life.  Mostly because I think that this stage of my life kind of came earlier than I expected for me.  When I was younger, I wasn’t liked very much and had a lot of people who would make fun of me on a daily basis.  I didn’t really understand why though.  From my perspective, I tried to fit in, and I tried to make friends, but the other kids didn’t understand my actions and thought me weird.

So I had to grow up and act mature to at least appeal to the adults in my life.  I was lucky to have the friends that I did, so outside of school I could at least act like a kid.  But in the end, everyone you talked to about me would always say that I was the mature one.

That was brought over into high school, where everyone thought of me as the motherly figure.  If there was one thing people thought I was going to be when I grew up, it was always that I would be the best mother.

But to me…I never really felt like I had grown up.  I always felt that I was just missing something that would make me an adult.  I try and act the mature one at times, but right now…I’m legally an adult, I make adult choices in my life, however it’s still a struggle to get myself started in life and become a full adult.  I’m not a teenager anymore, but it still feels like some things that I do are still childish.  I try my best, no doubt, but it still feels difficult to try and express myself in an adult way.   Sometimes I don’t even know if I know how to be an adult.

Although that always confused me, since I’ve seen adults act more childish than some kids that I know.  I don’t know if society really knows what it means to be an adult in this world either.

I really look up to my mother in this respect, because regardless of what other people say about her, she’s pretty much my ideal adult.  She doesn’t take any flack from people that treat her wrongly, she’s always reliable, she always tries her best to be a good mom, and she does the best she can to live the way she thinks is best.  It takes a very strong will to work out in this world and not have it break you.  She still has her own dreams and hopes that she’s driving towards.  And sometimes I think that I might be holding her back because I haven’t finished my transition into an adult yet.

I know that I still have some time before it’s time for me to leave the house, but at the same time, I worry it might not be enough.

Break ups are hard.  Believe me, I would know.  Hopefully these will be helpful to know after a break-up.  These tips are for regardless if you want to be friends with your ex or not.

1.  Stop all contact with your ex.

The first thing you should do is to stop talking with your ex.  Don’t text them.  Don’t call them.  Don’t Facebook them.  Seriously.  If you feel yourself wanting to talk to them, hide your phone away.  Every break up is different, but really it’s best if you don’t talk to them at least a month.  Regardless if you want to be friends with your ex, the best thing to do is to stop all contact with your ex.   Trust me.  Right after a break up is the worst time to talk to your ex.  Emotions are running high, and it’s very easy to fall back into wanting to be in a relationship with them.

2.  Distract yourself

The worst thing to do is to sit around doing nothing.  Make yourself busy. Go out.  Walk your dog.  Write an article.  Start a multi-million dollar website.  Do anything but sit at home doing nothing.  Not doing anything will just allow you to mope about your relationship.  And that’s the last thing you want to do if you want to stop feeling sorry about yourself.

3.  Avoid Social Networking (or anything else that connects you to your ex)

Don’t go on their Facebook “just to see how they’re doing”.  Put away anything that reminds you of your ex.  Stop doing anything that reminds you of them.  It’s pretty much the same as distracting yourself.

4.  Surround yourself with real friends

Get out of the house.  Get your friends around you.  Don’t be alone.  Your friends are there to help you.  Those are the people that you need to be around.

5.  Improve yourself for yourself, not for your ex.

Eventually, you’ll stop feeling sorry for yourself.  That’s a good thing.  You’ll clean yourself up, you’ll start trying again, and you’ll go out on your own to do things that make you feel happy.  However you have to do this because you want to feel better, not in some kind of weird revenge quest against your ex.  You have to be true to yourself and not get hung up on your ex.  It’ll be hard at first, but eventually it will get easier.

6.  Give yourself time before moving on

Don’t jump into another relationship too soon.  Give yourself a minimum of three months before you’re ready to get into a new relationship.  This is probably the most important step that people seem to miss out.  Sometimes you think you’re ok to start dating again, but then you find out it’s just too soon.  That’s ok.  Just keep in mind your boundaries, and work your way to being back to normal.

Due to recent events in my life, as well as the giant snow storm that has plagued Southern Ontario, I have decided that instead of working today, I’m going to blog about Canada.

For those of you who don’t know, I live in Canada.  And no, Canada is not a country where we ride Polar Bears to work and live in igloos all day.  No, Canada is a place where we have both English and French labels on our food, our army bails out Toronto when it snows too much, and where we’re so goddamn nice all the time.

It’s kinda odd watching the the rest of the world from Canada.  It’s kinda like being that one kid who watches everyone else on the playground, who tries to fit in, but most of the time just kinda backs up against their mother by the end of the day. The mother being England in this instance.

I’m not sure how many other people view Canadians.  I know some people in the USA think that we all live in igloos, go bush-wacking, all wear plaid flannel, say “Eh” and “aboot”, and a bunch of other stuff like that.  Hetalia portrays Canada as the one people forget all the time.  Hell, even Humon, a webcomic artist, portrays Canada as the USA’s hat.

To be honest, I think Canada accurately depicts who I am right now: not sure where I belong, has potential to do many things, but instead thinks too much about what has happened instead of thinking of how to make it better.

But really, I enjoy being Canadian.  Hell, proud of it even.  Because really, where else could I be that would allow me to be the best I can be at being myself?

Anonymous asked:

Violet, Valentines Day is coming up and I’m starting to realize that I’m not attracted to my girlfriend anymore. In fact, I’m not attracted to anyone like my girlfriend, if you catch my drift. This is a new development for me and it’s all really confusing. Between my skateboarding practices and my stressful LPs on Youtube, I haven’t been able to find the time to tell my girlfriend that I’m a homosexual. Or maybe I’m just putting it off. I’m scared how she’ll take it. How can I tell her the news?

Violet responded:

It’s natural to be scared of how she’ll take it, but if she really loves you, she would rather see you happy than doing something that hurts both of you.  The longer you put it off the more it will hurt.

It’s like breaking up with a girlfriend.  Because that’s what you’re going to have to do anyway.  Tell her the truth.  Don’t make excuses because no matter what it’s going to hurt, but it will hurt less than if you decide to keep her as your girlfriend and then date a guy on the side.

Just tell her gently, and most of all, try your best to tell her that it’s not her fault.

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Anonymous asked:

With Valentines Day coming up, I’m in a real jam. There’s so many chocolates out there and I’m not sure which one to give. Do I go plain milk chocolate or the ones with almonds? Do I go for a more refined chocolate or the ones with the jizzum in them? There’s peanut butter and other fillings too. Violet, what’s your favorite chocolate?

Violet responded:

The thing about chocolate is that everyone has their own taste for it.  Getting the ones from the places that make them on the spot are the best.  They’re a little more expensive, but they taste great.

If you’re getting chocolate for someone else, ask them what type they like.  Find out any allergies they might have an react accordingly.

My favourite chocolates are the ones that have a truffle filling. :3

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Anonymous asked:

I have to ask something to Violet. I’m a little overweight, and it’s starting to bug me. I usually dress in layers, so it’s hard to tell under my flannel shirt and jacket, but I’d rather fix the problem not cover it up. I wish I knew what to do. It’s not like I don’t exercise. I do, whenever I have to do some amazing stunt work in some costumes (long story), but that’s not enough. Do you know any exercise tips I can try out?

Violet replied:

Well, there’s always the “eat right and exercise” bit that everyone tells you, but I think you meant specifics.

I don’t really know your diet that well.  Do you have any allergies or low tolerances to food?  If you’re one of those people who eat dairy even though they’re lactose intolerant, not eating dairy products actually makes you lose weight easier.  Actually, not eating as much dairy might help anyone, regardless if they’re lactose intolerant…Cheese, cream, and whole milk tend to make the intestines work slower and cause bloating. Yogurt is ok though because it has bacteria that helps digest food.

Eat more fiber to help flush out your system.  A lot of what you eat sticks around in your stomach for a long period of time, especially if it isn’t digested properly.  Eating fruit and vegetables helps, especially things like celery, since it’s got fiber.

Avoid eating only carbs for a meal.  If you eat only toast for breakfast, that might not be the best idea since carbs are for quick energy, but if that’s all you’re eating then you don’t move, your body will store that in fat cells.  It’s best if you balance out some of your meals.

Cooking from home instead of eating out helps too.  If you’re going to a restaurant you’re at the mercy of the cook and you sometimes don’t know what you’re eating, aka McDonalds.  When you cook for yourself you know how much you’re getting, and you can control how much of it.

Avoid eating sugar.  Yes, I know it’s hard, I love sugar too, but eating less sweets does help you lose weight.  Doesn’t mean you can’t eat it at all, just cut down on your sugar intake.

Doing stunt-work might not be the best form of exercise.  My personal way of exercising is that I walk everywhere.  I know, that’s not the greatest, but going out for a walk every day does help, like a good hour long walk.  It doesn’t build muscle, but it does help burn some of the fat away, even if it’s only a little.  Actually, a guy from Rooster Teeth would walk on a treadmill and play video games at the same time.  It took him longer than if he was just running on a treadmill, but eventually he lost weight.  It just takes a while for your body to get used to working off the fat, but it eventually does help keep pounds off.

If you want to do something more, then going to the gym to run on some treadmills, or getting one of those home exercising videos does help, just pace yourself and don’t do something that might hurt you too much (work out pain is different from breaking a bone pain, work out pain is fine).

If you’re looking to build muscle-mass, then I’m unfortunately not the person to talk to.  I have no experience of building muscle-mass.  I would have to ask a friend of mine if you wanted that.

In the end, losing weight just takes a little time and patience.  Keep an mind on what you eat and balance that with something that keeps your body moving, even if it’s just for an hour a day.  Just keep at it and don’t lose hope.  Eventually you’ll find something that works for you.

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