Anonymous asked:

Hi Violet, Basically I’m having some real bad relationship problems and I dunno what to do :/ I’m in the popular group at school and so is this boy, but he’s a complete man whore and loves to have sex with all the slags. Unfortunately he’s never looked at me in that way as I’m a uk size18 so I don’t think I fit his category. He’s also a bit of a bad boy and I’m really attracted to that. He’s also drop dead gorgeous! He can be real horrible though but I know at heart he’s a softly. but I had this party and he made the effort to come, but he just kissed loads of girls and when I got drunk i let my emotions out and told him all about my depression, self harm etc and he completely accepted me for it. Also on New Year’s Eve we shared a New Years kiss but omg I dunno what it is about him but I get such bad butterflies I actually puke. I’ve had this huge crush on him for about 3 months now and it’s killing me šŸ™ please help What do I do?!

Violet responded:

Well you have to ask yourself, do you really want a bad boy for a boyfriend?

You know that this guy sleeps around a lot, and you know that heā€™s probably not going to treat any girlfriend he has very well.Ā  So do you really want that for a boyfriend?Ā  He may be a softy at heart, but is that enough to go on for a relationship?

My advice would really to look for another guy.Ā  This one may be good for eye candy, but itā€™s best to find someone who would treat you right rather than one that will make you look good.

Again, just because he made the effort to come, doesnā€™t mean that heā€™s the better person for you.Ā  Itā€™s good that he accepts you for you, but do you really want someone with such a reputation for a boyfriend?

If you really want a relationship with him, then go for it because who am I to deny what your heart wants.

Iā€™m just saying that there are warning bells, and itā€™s sometimes better to listen to those.

 

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